Sin is a symptom, never the need. 

In the Church, confession is an act of contrition (penance) performed before a bishop. A member confessing sins may also seek absolution, forgiveness, and spiritual guidance. As bishops, it is important to remain calm and engaged without prejudice towards any sin, including those against the Holy Trinity, blasphemy, suicide, murder, adultery, incest, bestiality, and sacrilege.



Jesus Christ created his church to welcome anyone who wants to join them. Whether you're Christian, Buddhist, Hindu, Muslim, Jew, Pagan, Atheist, Wiccan, Druid, or something else entirely, you can come to church and worship God. Likewise, bishops are encouraged to accept and love everyone in their community. Just like Jesus Christ teaches us as members of the church.  For some bishops, they are unable to understand the impact they have on their members within the first five minutes of their meeting. It is primarily due to how the individual bishop interprets or treats the individual member. For example:

• Stopping the symptom is desirable, but only in part. In the pain or fear of the sin, the sin mistakenly may be the sole focus.
• Lack of “understanding” is the real issue

As a result, a bishop's inability to connect or engage with a non-judgemental tone can seriously alter the member's path during the repentance process. 

Why do Bishops often use toxic shame in a confession? 

Those who follow and adhere to the teachings of Jesus Christ understand the atonement and how confession is an important part of receiving forgiveness.

Going to a bishop is one of the best ways to get your sins forgiven. Likewise, members who commit any serious sins are seeking to confess those to a bishop immediately. As a member enters the bishop's office, they are humbled and encouraged. However, bishops oftentimes will not know how to handle or help the member. As a result, they can come across as harsh, blaming, or "I will fix" you type of demanor. commit another grave sin.

It is also important for Bishops to attend instill regularly with his members because they need to feel it is possible to be forgiven by God through the atonement of Jesus Christ.

5 Reasons to Go to Confession



Receiving Holy Communion regularly has several benefits. Among them are having a conversation with God; asking and receiving forgiveness for your sins; and growing spiritually by living in God’s light and grace.

You should begin by saying "Bless me, father," then proceed to tell the priest what sins you committed. When asking about the length of time between confessions, you may say something along the lines of "I haven't gone in quite awhile."

1. Cleanse Your Soul

Attendance at Mass allows one to cleanse oneself of sin and receive absolution. Afterwards, one may perform the penance given by the priest and return home renewed. There is little feeling greater than realizing that God has listened and forgives. Confession is like an opportunity to clear one's head, remove the burden of guilt, and prepare for the road ahead.

(Unintended Space) This important sacrament allows you to remind yourself that God is on your side, He is always there when you most need him, and that he has forgiven your sins. Confession is an essential part of strengthening your relationship with God and receiving his blessings through the sacraments, which include Holy Communion.

Receive God's graces helps to lead a more holy lifestyle. Frequent confession allows one to receive a greater abundance in graces. God's Grace strengthens us and help us to avoid sin. After confession, we can live a happier and more devout lifestyle knowing God has cleansed our souls and forgives us of our sins. Another reason to confess is it can humble us, helping us overcome pride or arrogance.

Because we are human beings, it is easy for each one of us to believe that our relationship with God gives us an excuse for sinning. We can easily convince ourselves that because we are forgiven, we do not really deserve punishment. However, confession helps us realize that we are sinners just as much as any other person. The only difference between us and others is that we know what we did wrong and we regret doing so. The important thing is that we are truly sorry for having committed these sins and ask for forgiveness to live a holy life in his divine light. Confession teaches us to accept and learn from mistakes.

No matter the sins that you've committed, you can find forgiveness and mercy with God. The most significant part of confession is being sincerely sorry for what you did wrong and promising to live differently in the future. Confession shouldn't just be about getting a fresh start; it's also about talking directly to God and cleansing your soul.

2. Grow Your Relationship With the Lord

Confession strengthens your relationship with God; by constantly going to confession and trying to avoid sin, you learn to depend on his guidance and become more open to his will for your life. It is important to keep in mind that you will never be as close as you should be to God, which means that continuously working on your relationship with him is of the utmost importance

Although God loves us, we cannot be as near to Him as we would like because we are human and have lingering sins in our lives. We're imperfect beings who live in sinful ways, which act as a barrier between God & us. Only when we're in His glory in heaven can our relationship be the closest it can be. Going back to church regularly helps you lessen this barrier of sin & repair your relationship with the lord.

Confession is an integral part of any spiritual journey. We may feel ashamed of our past actions, but only through honesty can we truly move forward. No matter how far down the rabbit hole one travels, there is no turning back once one begins to confess his/her sins. By acknowledging our wrongdoings, we can begin to heal and move forward into a new day.

We gradually strengthen our relationship with God as we recognize our mistakes and learn to live a more pious life. Baptism brings us back into communion, but we still sin throughout life. Confession allows us hold ourselves accountable for these sinful acts and seek true forgiveness. Souls need confession to purify themselves, enabling them to restore their relationship with God.

We need confession because it helps us repair the bonds we break by committing sins. It helps us avoid committing serious sins and reduces the number of venial ones we commit every day.

3. Experience Divine Forgiveness

Confession allows us who sin to confess our sins and receive forgiveness through Jesus' sacrifice. Thankfully, there is no question if we are forgiven or not when we make a valid confession and to God. If you confess all your mortal sins and are really sorry for them, your spirit is purified when the priest says the words of absolution during a confession. During a confession, Jesus is sacramentally present in you through the priest's presence.

You should ideally go through a full confession during which you confess every single one of your sins, including mortal or grave ones. Remember that we are humans, so even if you forgot to mention a particular sin during confession, God would still forgive you as long you were truly sorry for committing this sin and your heart was pure.

After confessing, you may want to bring up the subject again during your next confession. However, you must remember that you will only receive absolution if you've truly forgotten to mention the sin, or were not aware of the sin when you confessed.

If a person knowingly and deliberately doesn't mention a mortal sin during their confession, they won't be forgiven for those sins. Not mentioning mortal sins you're aware of during a confession means you're guilty of the sin of perjury. Refusing to tell the truth during a confession also means committing the sin of sacrilegious perjury.

While it may seem hard, you should tell your confessor everything. You do not want to hide any part of yourself from him. He can only hear what you say, so if you feel ashamed about something, he won't know. And if he does find out, he can't reveal your secrets to others. Finally, remember that your confessor cannot tell anyone else what you confess to him.

4. Relinquish Your Guilt

If we live a life full of unforgiveness, we separate ourselves from God and become tired of sin. Sin makes us feel ashamed and guilty. However, these feelings prevent some people from confess­ing their sins, which only makes things worse over time.

Talking to God through an experienced priest gives you access to emotional, physical and spiritual blessings.

• Admitting your sins openly and honestly removes the guilt and emotional burden caused by them.
• Admitting your mistakes helps you become aware of them and prevents you from repeating them in the future.
• Hearing the words, "I absolve you from all of your sins" at the end of confession offers relief.

To help someone who has committed a sin confess their sins, they need to be completely honest with themselves and the confessor. A religious confession helps them explore their deepest thoughts and emotions so they can grow spiritually and emotionally.

5. Admit your sinful ways.

First, acknowledge your past sins and behaviors. Then walk away from them. You may feel lighter because you're no longer bound by sin.

If you haven't committed mortal or grave sins yet, recognizing them is important so you can get rid of them. Confessing helps you to go through life and live in God's light.

Even the slightest sins wound our souls and separate us from God; regularly going to confession cleanses us and repairs our relationships with Christ; confession also helps us recognize how we've distanced ourselves from God every time we sin.

How bishops can support members through the teachings of Jesus Christ. 

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Confession is an excellent chance to get forgiveness for your sins and build your relationship with God. Bishops can offer spiritual guidance and support through our bishop training program. Our mission is to help people who are poor spiritually and materially through sharing the gospel of Jesus Christ.

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Five things not to do in the first 5 minutes of an interview with a wife whose husband are addicted to pornography.

False thinking #1 – One size fits all. If you’ve interviewed a few or a hundred wives

whose husbands are addicted to porn don’t assume you understand the

circumstances simply because you’ve been down that road before. The wife is going

through something known as betrayal trauma.

False Thinking #2 – Prayers and scriptures are enough. Prayers and scriptures are an integral part of our spiritual health and continued progress. However, a betrayed wife’s reality has been turned upside down. What she believed and knew as her reality doesn’t exist anymore. For some women they struggle with simple tasks suchas getting out of bed in the morning.

False Thinking #3- If a wife would be more intimate, her husband wouldn’t look at

porn. This is a common problematic thought process. Most women need to feel an

emotional connection with her husband first. Emotional safety, trust, and security

are keys parts to a women’s intimacy needs.

False Thinking #4- This woman I’m seeing is an angry difficult woman. She needs

anger management therapy. Due to the husband’s fear and shame, it is common for the husband to operate with“staggered disclosure” or “trickle truth”. Many times, the husband denies any further activity only to have it discovered later by his wife. His denying and deflecting fault onto his wife, cases her to feel like she’s going crazy. Her gut tells her something is off, but her husband denies his activity.

False Thinking #5 – Every wife deals with betrayal trauma the same way. Each

woman has her own past and some have experienced greater childhood trauma

than others. This means it may take longer for some to heal than others.