Why Do Men Suffer From Sexual Addiction?

Why is there a debate about whether or not sexual addiction is real? 

Pornography and sexual addiction are on the rise at alarming rates. Why then, is there a debate about whether or not it is an addiction? 

Our culture and environment are perfect breeding grounds for sex addiction. From tv, literature, and the internet, the expression "sex sells" seems to be more accurate than ever. Likewise, we live in a world where seemingly irresponsible sexual behaviors seem acceptable. As a result, it makes it easy to spread the misconception that sexual addiction isn't real. 

In reality, sex addicts, like any other addict, often turn to their addictive behavior as a way of escaping from reality. Furthermore, many tend to suffer from past emotional trauma or sexual abuse. Hence, the emotional toll of this addiction can be as devastating as any other addiction. 

What are the signs you might have a sexual addiction? 

Admitting you have an addiction is the first step toward recovery. Many try to hide their behaviors or deny their inability to function without their addiction. Whereas, some addicts may not realize life has become unmanageable without their addiction. 

If you are curious if you have a sexual addiction, ask yourself the following questions. Each of these may indicate that your problem may be more significant than you realize it is. 

• Are you trying to hide your behaviors? 
• Do you experience mood swings in regards to sex?
• Has your partner mentioned you seem to be more controlling regarding intimacy?
• Do you have obsessive thoughts about pornography or sexual activity? 
• Have you noticed you feel defensive when questioned about your sexual behaviors? 
• Do you need to view pornography in order to have a sexual response when you're intimate with your partner? 
• Do you expect your sexual experience to match those you view? If so, do you feel a lack of desire to be physically intimate? 
• Have you been isolating from or avoiding your loved ones?
• Do you remain at the office, etc. so you can view porn or engage in other sexual behaviors without interruption? 

If you answered yes, you might have an addiction. As a result, it may be the perfect time to reach out for professional help. At SOLE Counseling, we understand the complexities of sexual addiction. We can help you overcome all of the obstacles you might find in your way. 

What does recovery from a sexual addiction look like? 

For those with an addiction to alcohol or substances, abstaining from those substances leads to recovery. However, recovering from sexual addiction doesn't require abstaining from sexual activity. In fact, the goal is to help you develop a safe relationship with sexual activities. Just like food addicts learn how to have a healthy relationship with food, you, too, can develop a healthy relationship with sex. 

Recovery from sexual addiction means uncovering the root of the problem. Through the healing process, you can discover what drove you to your addictive behaviors. Likewise, you can regain control of your life and heal your relationships. 

At Sole Counseling, we are helping many men recover from sexual addiction. We can walk you through the healing process and support you in your recovery. Call us today.